LLI 59 The Power of the Pause – Why Relaxation is the Foundation of Your Creative Life
Show notes
What if the most radical act in your personal and professional life is simply… to relax?
In this calming, grounded episode of Love Louder: Iterations on Becoming Human, Sang offers a gentle, potent reminder that relaxation is not a luxury—it’s a skill, a habit, and an embodied way of relating to tension, joy, celebration, and challenge alike.
Learn how building the capacity to pause in neutral moments helps you access peace when everything else feels like chaos. Whether you're dealing with a looming deadline, a heated argument, or a high of excitement, your body’s ability to soften shapes the way you experience it all.
This episode isn't just about theory—it's an invitation to embody wisdom. Inhale. Exhale. Drop your shoulders. Relax. You’ll thank yourself later.
🔑 Topics covered: – The habit of relaxing in neutral moments – Building nervous system resilience – Celebration without gripping – Embodied presence in tension and joy – The difference between being a consumer vs. a creative producer – Why creativity flows from relaxation, not pressure
Perfect for creators, coaches, and business humans who want to meet life with clarity, rather than contraction.
Show transcript
00:00:00: Today is a very simple reminder for all of us to relax.
00:00:07: Iteration number 59 of the Love, Love, and Podcast Iterations on Becoming Human, it's
00:00:14: really easy to get caught up in the tension of a project that is coming up of a deadline
00:00:25: approaching of a dispute that we're having with another person that we forget to relax.
00:00:34: And I know this is a bit of a sentence because first thought could be like, "Oh man, how
00:00:43: could I relax when I'm tense up and stressed?"
00:00:48: Of course you cannot when you're in the moment.
00:00:50: So this is why it's a reminder today when you're good when there's nothing special
00:00:57: happening, let's say like that, when you're not in an agitated space.
00:01:02: It really is sufficient to have that neutral space of nothing special is happening.
00:01:10: Nothing special is just agitating our landscape of emotions to remember to consciously relax,
00:01:20: to relax our muscles, to breathe.
00:01:24: Not because we would need it, but it is a practice and it is also forming a habit and
00:01:34: enforcing or helping to build these neural pathways in our brain that will later on be
00:01:42: very beneficial for us when there is the moment of tension to relax.
00:01:48: So how can you remember to relax when you're in a situation of fight, of contraversion,
00:01:56: of discussion, when you're in a hurry because you got up too late?
00:02:03: And your partner has a different opinion than you when it is really important to you that
00:02:09: they understand you.
00:02:12: It's by remembering and by inserting a pause and the capacity to be able to insert that
00:02:17: pause and to remember we do not build it in the moment itself when it's challenging,
00:02:23: but in the moments in between in that neutral spaces.
00:02:28: And also you can experiment with it because there are other states of mind where we do
00:02:38: not want to relax.
00:02:41: Sometimes it's weird, so joyous and so excited because there's something happening when we're,
00:02:48: it's like being on a roller coaster sometimes or just queuing up for it is so exciting,
00:02:58: at least for me because you just anticipate what is to come and there's a little bit of
00:03:03: anxiousness but it feels good so we do not want to relax.
00:03:09: It's part of it, it's part of the experience or when we're really excited because we
00:03:15: have accomplished something that was not on our mind before that we were doubting at first.
00:03:23: We do not want to leave it. We usually tend to grasp on it very tightly.
00:03:28: Now, can we celebrate and relax at the same time?
00:03:33: That's a question. Can you relax yourself in the celebration? Can you relax
00:03:45: yourself in the moments of agony too?
00:03:47: And that is the question that will not be answered in the moments themselves because,
00:03:56: again, it's hard when we're already in this very active state of mind. That's why
00:04:04: we need to remember if we want to, in these moments where nothing special is happening.
00:04:13: Okay, I'm good here. It will serve us later on.
00:04:19: And even if it's now, right now, listening to the podcast, like, is there any tension you can
00:04:26: let go that you have unconsciously? Can you drop your shoulders a little bit?
00:04:31: Can you breathe a little bit more by relaxing your belly? Like, not breathing more, but
00:04:41: more deeply, not by forcing it, but letting it happen just because you just have put your awareness on it.
00:04:49: It's really that simple. We do not have to
00:04:54: to stay in that abstract. And I know that I introduce a lot of concepts in this podcast,
00:05:01: in these iterations too, but I see it like that. It is all, every word is an empty vessel.
00:05:11: Every word that you listen to, that you read, everything that you consumed
00:05:17: is an empty vessel if you do not fill it with your life, with your situations, with your
00:05:26: whatever comes up for you. That is where the magic starts. That is where you choose.
00:05:36: Either you be a consumer, torn between that tension of "I want that, I don't want that,"
00:05:46: the tension of emotions too, or you become a producer.
00:05:55: Someone who can take in what they see, hear, learn, feel, and create something in their life
00:06:08: with impact, infused with their essence. And it all starts with relaxation.
00:06:20: So here's a reminder to us, for me and for you, to love a little louder.
00:06:27: Lots of love, Shang.
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