LLI 51 Letting Go to Let In: Cutting the Dead Wood & Creating Space for What Matters
Show notes
You just celebrated something — and then, paradoxically, let it go. That’s what this episode is about.
Iteration 51 explores how refinement is less about doing more, and more about doing less — with intention. From deleting an outdated business profile to detaching from vanity metrics, this is a conversation about cutting the dead wood to create space for your essential self and the life (and business) that wants to emerge from it.
We talk about distractions, clarity, self-leadership, transparency in relationships, and how building a business (or a love life) that feels alive starts with radical presence.
This is your invitation to reflect on what no longer serves and love a little louder — by being more you.
This invitation is for you: What are you navigating right now? What has this podcast opened up in you? If you’ve been listening, the door is open for you to join in, share, connect—and help shape what comes next.
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Show transcript
00:00:00: Iteration 51 of the Love Latter podcast, Iterations on Becoming Human.
00:00:06: This one is a continuation of the iteration 50.
00:00:12: We talked there about stats and the Google profile and that I had as a business profile,
00:00:19: which was not active anymore because I closed the business venture that I had with it.
00:00:26: It just was still online as an account.
00:00:30: I did something.
00:00:31: I deleted it even after celebrating it just in the last episode that the views were increasing.
00:00:41: And it sounds so paradox yet it's a consequence what we've been establishing and also practicing
00:00:49: throughout the episodes.
00:00:51: It is refinement.
00:00:55: It is simplicity.
00:00:58: It is reducing the amount of distraction to focus ourselves on what is essential.
00:01:06: And in this case, it is so easy to be blinded by metrics that are vanity metrics.
00:01:16: They do not say anything.
00:01:18: They just say, "Here's how many people landed on the page."
00:01:23: Well, it is, of course, amazing that it increased without marketing, without promoting the podcast
00:01:31: and the site.
00:01:35: It's leading to a place which is a profile which is not active anymore.
00:01:40: And I have no intent to reactivate it because it is in a different location.
00:01:46: It's not in English, so it's a different language.
00:01:50: It is still under my former brand name, so it's just nothing.
00:01:55: It's got nothing to do with what is evolving right now, even though it has been part of
00:02:03: the previous journey.
00:02:05: So here's the thing.
00:02:07: Everything that you do right now, there will become a day when you let it go, when it is
00:02:13: not relevant to you anymore.
00:02:17: And it will live in the evolution of you.
00:02:24: It will live in its core.
00:02:27: Everything that you've learned will live on in the lessons that you continue on learning,
00:02:34: not just in that explicit way, that you can see it, that you can actually see, let's say,
00:02:41: a product, or in this case, a profile, but it is one of the experiences that shape what
00:02:51: has become you and who you are becoming.
00:02:58: And when we ground ourselves embracing that truth only serves our reality, it is not a
00:03:08: means of escape.
00:03:12: When we embrace that, to dive deeply into our humanness, it also means cutting away
00:03:21: the dead wood.
00:03:26: Cutting away the dead wood, that which does not serve us anymore, that which distracts
00:03:34: us to really be open to what then comes.
00:03:45: And that's, here's the paradox, in cutting away what is not essential, the world of
00:03:52: thousand, ten thousand things, we will open our mind and heart to abundance, to the end
00:04:04: and entirety of everything there is.
00:04:08: Now it's just that we're not distracted, that not distracted anymore.
00:04:15: That's the thing.
00:04:16: And for that, we need a practice to let go because this is the hardest one.
00:04:24: We know what is good for us.
00:04:27: We know that we should eat healthy, that there are habits that contribute to our well-being,
00:04:35: to care for this body, to care for our mental life, for emotional life, for relationship.
00:04:41: We know all these things.
00:04:43: There are so many books and articles and tapes and tricks that are given to us.
00:04:51: The information is already there.
00:04:53: It's not about the information and it's for sure not about the lack of information.
00:04:59: No, it's the exact opposite.
00:05:02: We are flooded, we're flooded with tips and tricks and how-tos and information.
00:05:10: So much so that we lose out of sight what is essential for us, for our life, that we
00:05:22: forget to apply these things to our life as a lens.
00:05:27: Yet at the same time, one is that distraction, that forgetting, that also numbness that leads
00:05:34: us into that state of numbness, like the distraction leads us into the numbness.
00:05:43: Now second is that it just, hold on a second, second is that while we know all these things,
00:06:01: what to do, it's not about doing them.
00:06:05: It is about letting that go which hinders us on doing them.
00:06:13: We do not lack what is good for us.
00:06:20: What is really the difficulty for humans, for humanity is letting go.
00:06:29: It is that fear of change, it is leaping into the unknown which every process of letting
00:06:36: go involves and it is as simple and as trivial too as such as like eating chocolate.
00:06:50: We know that chocolate en masse, chocolate in huge amount is not good for us.
00:06:58: Still it's hard for us to stop eating chocolate or to just refrain from eating it when we
00:07:06: have it at home.
00:07:07: That's just an example.
00:07:09: If you're not that into chocolate, take your favorite drug.
00:07:12: It can be caffeine too, so coffee or green tea or activities, experiences, courses.
00:07:21: Sometimes we dive into knowledge that we want to know more, take another course, learn another
00:07:27: book without really letting it sink into it, our being, our current life, to contemplate
00:07:37: it, to see what we can take out of it to apply it because that is then the change that we
00:07:46: would start.
00:07:48: It's grounding what we have from this realm of the abstract, which is the idea too, tendering
00:07:59: to the idea, so much so that it can grow roots in the concrete and the materialized world
00:08:12: that it can be seen, touched, heard, felt.
00:08:18: That's why I deleted the profile, which I just celebrated in the last episode and
00:08:24: it sounds paradox, yet it is the only thing that was left then after I contemplated.
00:08:37: After recording it a few hours later, I just checked the profile.
00:08:41: I just checked it and everything was old information on there, the text, the intro,
00:08:47: the description, and it's misleading for people when they find that.
00:08:57: So here where you are right now, the podcast is up to date.
00:09:05: It's the most up to date medium and channel that we have right now and we're working on
00:09:10: the other ways of trading this field because this is not a funnel.
00:09:21: For now, it is a field.
00:09:24: You create a field, touch points to get to know you.
00:09:36: That is where you invite people in.
00:09:39: That is where you just show up and people will notice you and recognize you and they will
00:09:48: know immediately if this is for you, so if it's for them or not.
00:09:56: It applies to business, of course, because you do not want everyone to follow you.
00:10:02: This is a vanity metric too.
00:10:04: My numbers and followers now, who are they?
00:10:08: Followers who?
00:10:11: Are they interested?
00:10:13: Are they curious?
00:10:17: Do they want to enter that field that you're creating, like dipping into it?
00:10:24: And it's okay to be curious.
00:10:26: It's okay to be interested.
00:10:27: It's okay.
00:10:28: It's good to be skeptical.
00:10:30: It's okay to be curious.
00:10:36: It's okay to be curious.
00:10:38: You don't want people to linger around and just take up space.
00:10:47: It is your house.
00:10:48: You don't want to invite everyone in.
00:10:53: You're still being selective and it is your right to do so.
00:10:58: The same with relationships.
00:11:00: When you're in search of a relationship, of course, the best thing is to show up.
00:11:11: Show up as you as the radiant being.
00:11:20: And then, of course, it will repel some people.
00:11:23: You don't want them to have them approaching you nearer when they are repelled from you
00:11:31: anyway, so there is no point in convincing people who do not want to be with you in the
00:11:39: first place, nor in the second place.
00:11:43: Because sometimes, of course, we give ourselves time.
00:11:46: We give other people time to get to know us.
00:11:48: This is important.
00:11:49: This is why there is a field.
00:11:52: This is that field of radiance that we've touched on already.
00:11:59: It's certainly not about saying yes or no at the first sight.
00:12:07: You probably have not done this with this podcast.
00:12:10: This one too is a field, so it's likely that you get to know me better.
00:12:17: As a listener, when listening to several episodes, it's the same time with any relationships.
00:12:23: It's the same time in romantic relationships.
00:12:27: It's the same thing.
00:12:28: Same thing I'm saying, not time for business.
00:12:39: So what happens here is to focus ourselves on what is essential to give people the chance
00:12:48: to get to know us, but we can only let them get to know us if we are seen, if we show
00:13:00: up as ourself, if we are transparent with our feelings, with our heart, with what moves
00:13:07: us, with what is our essence.
00:13:13: That draws the people in.
00:13:16: That draws in friendships.
00:13:18: That draws in relationships.
00:13:21: That draws in clients.
00:13:25: But if you do not do that because you hide behind something somewhat that is outdated,
00:13:31: unprofessional, as in not you, because you try.
00:13:38: You try to be professional.
00:13:40: That sounds so hard to grasp.
00:13:44: Look, professionalism is a cliche.
00:13:49: The moment you try to chase it, it's the moment you become unprofessional because you try
00:13:58: to embark in an art that is not yours, it is not you, and the practice of it will just
00:14:04: keep you doing more of what you not are as the basis of your work.
00:14:13: It's creating a shell.
00:14:15: Now do you want that?
00:14:19: Probably not if you're listening.
00:14:23: I hope this makes sense.
00:14:27: I want to take this as an example and let it be your invitation to cut out that that
00:14:39: would, to see where you can reduce distraction.
00:14:43: It can be as simple as deleting a profile.
00:14:47: It can be as simple as deleting or unsubscribing from a newsletter that you do not read anyways
00:14:53: in your mailbox.
00:15:02: It can be this.
00:15:03: It can be other things that you find in your relational life.
00:15:09: That's my invitation for you today.
00:15:12: So just have a look out, see where your focus gets distracted from what is essential to
00:15:19: you.
00:15:20: And if you do not know yet what is essential, just take this question as to contemplate
00:15:27: for the rest of this day or for the next day if you want to start fresh.
00:15:33: Love a little louder.
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