LLI 48 The Power of One | How Repetition Builds a Life Worth Living

00:00:00: Hello gorgeous wonder. Today is iteration number 48 of the Love Louder podcast already.

00:00:07: Iterations on becoming human. What a breeze. It's 48 days. 48 iterations of this spoken intimacy.

00:00:19: Of the spoken iterations. And it feels like a breeze.

00:00:26: Here's what it is.

00:00:32: When I think of how I operate it, very often times when I got overwhelmed, it is because we overwhelm ourselves when we have the big goal in mind, the big vision.

00:00:50: Now, with recording this podcast, when you have listened to the first episode, you know how it started.

00:00:58: It was not having a big vision. It was having an idea, letting it come through you and just going into manifesting it, materializing it right away.

00:01:12: It's removing the friction of our bodies, of our thoughts, of our doubts too.

00:01:19: And I don't know where this will lead to. I just have a feeling it's a good place.

00:01:27: So what it is, is when we focus ourselves on just the very next step, it's going to get easier and easier.

00:01:42: The very first episode was the hardest. And then the second and then the third.

00:01:48: And then by the time, I did not even notice how we got here to 48 already, to iteration 48.

00:01:55: We could have celebrated the milestones in between every tenth episode.

00:02:00: And I did sometimes when I thought about it. But then it just went by like in a finger snap.

00:02:09: Because I just did one thing all over and over again. I just did one iteration.

00:02:18: I just did it once. I just record one episode. We just do it once.

00:02:27: And then we do it again. That's all. We do it once and then we do it again.

00:02:34: That is the power of one. Edit then the power of repetition.

00:02:41: The magic lies in that space from zero to one. And when you have cracked that,

00:02:51: you have set yourself up for whatever there will come through that.

00:02:58: Because you can have this first iteration from whatever you will do in every iteration afterwards.

00:03:09: It doesn't mean that you have to record a podcast now.

00:03:14: You can't transfer it easily to your life.

00:03:18: It doesn't mean that you do not want to lash out in the next fight with your partner.

00:03:24: Just concentrate on one. Is it that you want starting a practice of going jogging?

00:03:35: Then just go jogging once. And that is where the most drag comes.

00:03:46: Where we feel the most slow and heavy the further it comes to that first iteration.

00:03:59: Because what it is there, it's our own habits.

00:04:06: Just holding ourselves up. It's like, "No, we have not done this before."

00:04:10: This is not what we used to be. It just costs so much energy.

00:04:14: And you will feel it. You will feel it. It builds itself up so, so big.

00:04:21: And if we now add the projection of not just that one time that lies before us, but also that 100,000 steps ahead after that,

00:04:33: of course the mountain will get insurmountable.

00:04:38: So just ease yourself into that gap, which is zero to one.

00:04:52: That is the only thing that provides us with the necessary scope to move on instead of getting stuck.

00:05:04: Now I tell you that from my own experience. Of course it's my personal, personal contemplations and podcasts hereafter all.

00:05:17: So I know it's hard. And I am surprised myself that we got here.

00:05:26: And I share this because maybe it triggers something in you. It lights something in you up that helps you to moving into your life.

00:05:41: The only thing I can offer with this podcast, with these episodes, is a lens.

00:05:50: It's a lens to apply for how you see the world and the content.

00:05:59: You have to fill it in. It's your life. You listen to this. You take the lens.

00:06:06: And if you wish, you apply it to your life. You transfer it to your life.

00:06:15: That is what it means to forge your own pathway, to be not following along, but to be walking side by side, to be in this together because we are in this together.

00:06:34: It is what is inspiration. And we can draw inspiration not only from other people.

00:06:41: We can draw inspiration from everywhere, from nature, from situations, from conversations, from hazardous moments.

00:06:53: We can draw it from everywhere. And it does not mean that we know it before.

00:07:04: It does not mean we can take the step number 38 before the first one because I could not have told you what I would be talking in an episode and iteration number 48.

00:07:17: Yet now we are here because we did take one step and this one again and again.

00:07:33: That is the power of one with the power of repetition.

00:07:38: That is also relieving yourself of the internal pressure of the whole future in your responsibility.

00:07:53: And it's a strange thing because sometimes we make ourselves over responsible for things we cannot have in hand, for example, the future.

00:08:05: And the closer it gets, the more we focus on our actual scope of action, of influence, of impact that we can see.

00:08:20: We try to pull ourselves out of responsibility.

00:08:25: It is so easy to say, "Oh, I did not do that one thing because there was the weather that was not suitable. I just got stressed out. I did not sleep enough." Whatever there is.

00:08:41: And it's a very human tendency to underestimate your power and to overestimate it at the same time.

00:08:55: So we overestimate what we can do in a very short scope, like in the short time frame, for example, the next hour.

00:09:06: So sometimes you end up putting three, four, five tasks on your list and then you'll find yourself not being able to accomplish them all because one task just took longer than anticipated.

00:09:19: And on the other hand, we underestimate what we can do in a year.

00:09:24: And this also ties into focusing on just one thing, a single thing.

00:09:31: The more scattered your mind is, the more you feed into that very natural chaos of your mind,

00:09:38: which is just all over the place, very connected with everything, still trying to find the logic.

00:09:46: The more you scatter your energy over that, the more you will lose focus on what actually matters,

00:09:55: and you will lose sight on what is the next step.

00:10:04: And that is what we can hear sometimes, is called noise.

00:10:10: That is what the noise is, the noise of our own minds that distracts us, that distracts us.

00:10:18: And our responsibility is to resolve that, to resolve that by cutting away what is not necessary now,

00:10:35: what is not relevant.

00:10:39: And by that we remove, remove any exhaustion that comes with that overwhelming feeling of,

00:10:51: "There's so much to do, I cannot keep up with."

00:10:56: And then when you have found the smallest frame you can put yourself in,

00:11:03: and you see this podcast started out as, "Okay, let's record just one episode a day, every day."

00:11:13: That is the only thing.

00:11:17: It's still big enough for us to stretch into it.

00:11:21: Choose, choose your frame like that, small enough, but big enough.

00:11:28: Yet it leaves a lot of space for you to not get anxious all the way.

00:11:36: Like before you even start, because then you probably have put yourself into too many restrictions,

00:11:46: into too much anticipation of what comes next, the step after the step after the step.

00:11:53: You cannot do the fifth step before the first step.

00:11:57: So just focus on that one single step, on that first step.

00:12:05: It's the smallest frame possible, leaving for you through to stretch into what is possible without being predictable.

00:12:20: Does it make sense?

00:12:22: And then when you get comfortable with that, you can stack.

00:12:34: You can stack, you can just be in awe of the one that unfolds.

00:12:40: And it's not because you are actually doing, forcing, but it's you moving in your power.

00:12:51: It's you letting that idea, that creation flow through you, removing the friction,

00:13:01: removing the friction, removing the buildup of the future forecast that it is just not reliable.

00:13:12: Your mind can only predict according to its own experience, its own previous experience.

00:13:21: So it's not reliable, because fact is, we don't know what it is that comes.

00:13:33: The only thing that we can choose is drop ourselves into what is, no matter how comfortable or uncomfortable it is.

00:13:49: And when we surrender ourselves in that way, our uniqueness will reveal itself and whatever there is that is meant to come through you,

00:14:07: will find its way into the tangible.

00:14:12: When we remove that friction of our thoughts, building up, anticipating, worrying.

00:14:27: You do not even have to have the vision clear now.

00:14:32: It can be blurry.

00:14:37: You do not have to tie yourself in what is my purpose, what is my vision.

00:14:45: You do not have to get caught up in having to find your purpose now and your vision now.

00:14:53: When you take one little moment at a time every day to surrender,

00:15:05: in a chosen area of your life, it can be really, really small.

00:15:11: It's going to build itself.

00:15:18: And it's going to get clearer what the vision is, because the vision is you.

00:15:29: It's you the dream. You do not have to think of a dream. It's you.

00:15:36: You are the dream, the living dream.

00:15:44: Now, do you dare to let yourself fall into that, jump into that,

00:15:50: it means to start with the smallest step available and building on that.

00:16:00: It means when you navigate this world as a human being,

00:16:09: to watch yourself changing in that in the power of one,

00:16:18: the power of repetition, because there's no way that you can repeat something

00:16:25: exactly the same time, just like before.

00:16:29: There will be mutations, there will be changes in itself without you even noticing.

00:16:41: And here's where the treasure lies, the wonder lies,

00:16:46: and also the unpredictability.

00:16:52: Again, we've got this play of having the frame,

00:16:59: having the restriction and finding freedom in it through it when we surrender ourselves.

00:17:08: And it is what it means to take the first step and just this step, just once,

00:17:19: and then you do it again.

00:17:27: I offer this lens for you today and my invitation for you is,

00:17:34: take it really as a lens and fill it with your life,

00:17:44: with your day-to-day life too, with what you encounter in the present moment,

00:17:53: in your work life, in your business, in your professional life, in your family,

00:17:59: in your relationship, choose one area of the plan,

00:18:04: choose only one, apply the lens, and probably it popped up already for you.

00:18:10: And then, just do the first step, and then tomorrow again.

00:18:20: And by the time, you will suddenly stand in front of the wonder in awe.

00:18:31: I am in awe of you, you beautiful, wonderful human becoming,

00:18:39: close of stardust, love a little louder.

00:18:45: Chang.