LLI 46 When You're Strong but Secretly Need Shelter Too

00:00:00: Iteration number 46 of the Love Louder podcast, Iterations on Becoming Human, today we're

00:00:06: outside in the rain again.

00:00:08: I am standing beneath an oak tree who shelters me from the rain because I tried to be handling

00:00:18: my phone to record with an umbrella in the wind and the rain, it just was not.

00:00:26: I couldn't do it so I just folded the umbrella and looked out for a good place to stand.

00:00:34: Here's the thing, we will always find shelter when we seek for it.

00:00:42: We will always find help when we ask for it.

00:00:47: Are we daring to ask, to open up our voice to making ourselves vulnerable, seen actually

00:00:58: in what we want and what we need in the moment?

00:01:06: It's too easy to get caught up in all that truth and search for truth and consciousness

00:01:15: and checking ourselves into we would not need anything.

00:01:21: We do, we mustn't forget that we still have this human body, we can use it and we can,

00:01:33: it has some needs, we have needs, we have wants and we have desires too and things we don't

00:01:41: like.

00:01:42: And let's remind ourselves that even if we're in the search for truth, this too can be excessive,

00:01:52: it can be a road leading to nowhere.

00:01:57: You will be provided and you are provided with everything you need all the time.

00:02:03: The question is, are you satisfied with what is there?

00:02:09: Or is it greed kicking in that is making you want more?

00:02:16: I still get wet beneath that Oak tree.

00:02:19: It's a strong rain, it's a strong wind too and sometimes the leaves are just turned upside

00:02:24: down by the wind so they release more water than there is actually raining because it just

00:02:32: pulled on the leaves.

00:02:34: Sometimes I just get a few drops on my head and on my clothes.

00:02:45: Are you happy?

00:02:47: Can you find happiness in what is given to you?

00:02:53: There's nothing like life not meaning it well with you because sometimes we tend to step

00:03:00: into that place where we make it all about ourselves by making it about other people

00:03:07: and other circumstances and the world and life.

00:03:10: That life doesn't mean well to us, that we experience hardships, that people are not

00:03:17: acting according to what we believe would be the correct way of acting.

00:03:23: And when we make it about the circumstances, everything that is not us, we make it about

00:03:32: us.

00:03:40: Can you find that place of awareness?

00:03:46: Let's start with awareness because sometimes when you are all grumpy, it's really like

00:03:52: the least thing you want to think about is where is my happy place?

00:03:56: Where do I feel calm in my body?

00:03:58: It's like telling somebody to calm down when they're really agitated and anxious to not

00:04:05: stress out, it just does not work and it lacks compassion too.

00:04:14: So the first thing is to get from that anxious space to a neutral space and you can do it

00:04:20: either mentally, if you find it in your mind that place and it's probably then you have

00:04:29: practiced it throughout your life and in varying situations already.

00:04:39: Or you can, and that's the easier way, it's very simple, access it via body.

00:04:46: Feel your body that is that source too of needs and wants and wants to be just cared

00:04:56: for and sometimes caring.

00:04:59: It looks like not giving in to the tension that builds up but like directing your awareness

00:05:10: to your body parts, scanning your body and commanding your muscles to relax.

00:05:21: Can you lift your hand right now?

00:05:22: It doesn't matter which hand or finger even, that was a command to your body.

00:05:31: So you did that with relaxing muscles and also putting tension into muscles so you were

00:05:40: able to lift your finger and your own.

00:05:45: It's a practice just like a baby learning to crawl, it is a practice to get our commands

00:05:52: in tune with how the body moves and the same thing is for relaxing.

00:05:57: It's just that we do not usually have the habit of relaxing our bodies, especially

00:06:03: not when there's a situation of uncomfortableness.

00:06:07: It doesn't even have to be big because when we wait it out and just follow through the

00:06:15: motions waiting for when the big situation comes we will relax our body, this doesn't

00:06:23: work.

00:06:27: Probably it doesn't work because whatever is running then the drama that is running

00:06:31: will be overpowering you, overwhelming you and you will not find that place of neutrality

00:06:42: that you need, that place of pause to even get the idea to remember that you could be

00:06:49: able to relax in this situation.

00:06:54: So let's practice with the small things like walking through the rain or very common like

00:07:05: how you drive a car?

00:07:07: when you're outside driving car are being in traffic if you do not drive a car so it can be an honor public

00:07:17: on a means of public transport to or on your bike or even walking as a pedestrian.

00:07:24: What comes up when you interact with the other other participants in traffic when someone just

00:07:35: takes your opportunity to walk over the street or to drive like to get that

00:07:40: that green face of the traffic light. What comes up because there are so many hilarious scenes when

00:07:51: we became so one different when driving in a car or being in the traffic all of a sudden it's

00:08:01: important who that stranger who we didn't even know just cut us off in the traffic line and all

00:08:12: of a sudden it's worth spending not just the second but minutes after that complaining and

00:08:19: stressing about that person cursing them and that is where we can practice of course when we got two

00:08:25: minutes already just being in that state is really hard to get out so we have to let it exhaust

00:08:31: itself it's not a state that it's sustainable by itself because anger is never sustainable by itself

00:08:40: nor is sadness nor is anything that we experience as that one of that spectrum of emotion that when

00:08:51: we react to what what is not like according to what we believe. Practice to relax, practice finding the

00:09:04: small places of shelter, practice asking for shelter, asking for help, asking for support too

00:09:13: but not asking other people to do it to react in a different way but ask yourself.

00:09:19: Let it be directed by awareness to awareness by consciousness to consciousness.

00:09:27: Another human being can never fulfill your needs in a way that you will be satisfied because

00:09:36: it's fighting the same with the same.

00:09:45: It is still in the same realm you might get some satisfaction out of it but sometimes just the

00:09:51: others do not play with you in a way that you want to play and then you get all angry and you'll

00:09:57: stump your feet metaphorically and you will not be pleased by life and then the next thing you know

00:10:07: is life is unfair. Your partner does not react as you wish the business doesn't run as it's

00:10:15: supposed to be. It's not as easy as you anticipated. That is a trap of greed. It's a trap of greed because

00:10:26: we lose the view and our sense for seeing what is, seeing the opportunities that are laid before us

00:10:40: and sometimes it's hard because we cannot see it right away but it just reveals itself over time.

00:10:49: Sometimes it's an oak tree sheltering us from the rain just enough that it supports us to go on

00:11:01: letting that flow through us what wants to flow through us, what we committed ourselves to us not

00:11:10: out of a selfish reason even if it sounds like it but because that was one part of the flow

00:11:19: that comes through us the idea that only comes through you. My invitation to you is today. Really

00:11:31: be aware of whatever tension comes up in your body and arises and then ask. Just acknowledge it.

00:11:43: Do not ask why. Do not ask why it came here and what are the contributing factors. Just get aware

00:11:55: of what you want and what you need. Just for a second and directed not to the world, directed to

00:12:09: truths to when is to pure consciousness to God that was is in you. Try to keep it

00:12:24: in a way that does not mean acting up and acting out on others but to just sit with it. That's

00:12:32: another form of it. Sitting with it in an active way by getting clear on what do you want, what do

00:12:47: you need. We're here bridging, we're here bridging that edge, walking that edge of truth and humanity,

00:13:02: of truth and reality. So it is here where we can choose. It's here where the choice matters.

00:13:13: Of course you can dive deeper into humanity, you can act, act your needs out, you can act

00:13:25: your wants out. But first thing, just notice what there is and ask yourself. Maybe you have not done

00:13:35: that in a while and then take that bridge, just stand on the bridge. You do not have to walk

00:13:43: across, just stand on the bridge and direct the needs and wants to the God that is in you,

00:13:52: the consciousness that is in you and let that allow that to open yourself up.

00:14:03: Not by forcing, by noticing. Love a little outer.

00:14:10: Shang.