LLI 39 Do You Let Yourself Be Interrupted?

00:00:00: Do you let yourself be interrupted?

00:00:05: And if yes, by what?

00:00:10: This is iteration number 39 of the Love Lourder podcast, iterations on becoming human.

00:00:17: Hey, welcome, you beautiful star duster, cluster of star dust.

00:00:26: Today is about interruptions and especially when you have a family, you are being interrupted

00:00:37: all the time in your private life, in your family life, but also at work.

00:00:44: When you're in your office or when you're in your home office, there's always something

00:00:49: popping up.

00:00:50: Your message coming in from the messenger, from the email program, or just a notification

00:00:57: on your phone that tells you that it's time for whatever you schedule.

00:01:06: We are interrupted all day.

00:01:12: Is it that interruptions are bad?

00:01:13: No, I do not think so.

00:01:16: The question here is interrupted by what?

00:01:22: Very often we do from one thing, from some things, we do too much and from others, not

00:01:30: enough.

00:01:32: So do we let ourselves be interrupted by relaxation, by rest when we are in the workspace?

00:01:41: Very often not because we let ourselves be interrupted by things that just usually cause

00:01:48: more attention, more work, more effort in an external way.

00:02:01: Very little do we take our time then to make space for ourselves to just take a moment

00:02:07: to relax, to scan our body, to release the tension that builds up in our muscles throughout

00:02:12: the day because of those interruptions, because we have not chosen the interruption that serves

00:02:22: us, that serves life.

00:02:26: Of course our work does serve life too, yet we will be exhausted when we only run in one

00:02:34: way without seeing the other one, that is creating the balance.

00:02:42: When we only focus on doing, on getting things done, on jumping to the next task, on being

00:02:48: a factor of a deficient, on getting the shit done, without letting ourselves be interrupted

00:02:57: by a pause, by a moment of relaxation, by a moment of breathing in and out three times.

00:03:14: It's these few seconds that give us energy to then go out in the world and do our things

00:03:20: because we are going through seasons of our lives.

00:03:24: So there will be seasons of relaxation and rest and just taking things in especially when

00:03:34: you're older or when you're very young, then you just explore and be curious and enjoy.

00:03:42: Then there will be this middle part of life where you're very active, where you're building,

00:03:46: where you're exploring and discovering in a very action-filled way.

00:03:55: This is an overall tendency, you might have different seasons of your life too.

00:04:02: And then in those big seasons there are little phases that we go through.

00:04:07: Now do we let ourselves be interrupted in these phases of something that is not the main focus?

00:04:16: Or do we just get distracted?

00:04:24: There's a very tiny and fine line between distraction and interruption because of course

00:04:33: we want to focus on the things that are worth bringing into the world for us, worth doing

00:04:39: for us, worth enjoying.

00:04:46: And we want to be interrupted by that, what provides us with energy, with that joy that

00:04:57: sparks it even more, that lets ourselves have more energy to do what we want to do in the

00:05:05: world.

00:05:06: Does it make sense?

00:05:09: Another distraction just leads you away, it depletes you from the energy that you have

00:05:15: as life force you have access to.

00:05:19: So you do not do the things that provide you with more energy and provide you with that

00:05:29: life force that just amplifies your experience of life.

00:05:42: A little example, we have a beautiful day, you just enjoy what there is and you have

00:05:51: a great start in the morning, you go to work, you just get your things done and you meet

00:05:58: people and all is good and all of a sudden something happens that does not go along with

00:06:05: the vibe of the day.

00:06:07: Now the question is, do you let yourself be distracted by that?

00:06:15: That is not the interruption I'm talking about, that is an interruption that is tempting you

00:06:22: to follow because of course you could spoil your whole beautiful day by just following

00:06:29: that notion of wow, that was a bad incident.

00:06:33: I had to, for example, very, very simple, I had to stop now at the traffic light and

00:06:41: it's red and then I had to stop again and then I had to stop again.

00:06:45: So very often we have this little jar of patience that is then used up until it breaks.

00:06:53: Now will you be let yourself be distracted by that from your beautiful day, from the

00:06:59: joy you have experienced already in the last few hours?

00:07:12: How will the rest of your day be?

00:07:20: That would be a distraction.

00:07:21: Now can we, and I know that human tendency is to then focus on what was not pleasant,

00:07:30: on what was just very uncomfortable, on what was the negative experience that we had perceived

00:07:39: now and focus on that and maybe complain about that.

00:07:44: And first of all we cannot, we cannot buy, we can, well you have the choice, of course

00:07:51: you have the choice.

00:07:54: Yet it doesn't make sense to buy into letting your experience be dictated by something that

00:08:06: the reality, the reality that is an illusion, a creation of the mind of our consciousness.

00:08:21: When you remember that moment to breathe, to relax your body, to go through your muscles

00:08:30: and just let the tension flow out again, then you will be open again for what is truth,

00:08:37: what you are in essence.

00:08:39: It's not the circumstance.

00:08:43: Your power does not lie in the circumstance.

00:08:47: Your power, your true power that you always have access to is not circumstantial.

00:08:58: It's the source and truth.

00:08:59: And when you remember truth, when you turn to truth, to pure consciousness, to the essence,

00:09:11: to God, it puts everything into relation.

00:09:17: And then you can just go further along with the vibes that you get then in your day without

00:09:24: being bothered too much.

00:09:26: Not by the circumstances that you face, but especially not by yourself.

00:09:40: On the other hand, do we let ourselves be interrupted when we have a bad day, when there

00:09:49: is a neighbor at the door just having a nice chat with us and it's a good conversation.

00:09:57: Do we let ourselves be interrupted by that?

00:10:00: That we just experience a moment of joy or do we just continue our day being all grumpy

00:10:06: because the weather is bad and whatever there is?

00:10:11: It's a hard thing for us humans.

00:10:14: I know that.

00:10:16: It's hard to let ourselves be interrupted of the good that we, the wonder that we experience

00:10:27: when we are focusing on something that is just not according to what we think life should

00:10:33: be.

00:10:37: So we're three feet in the distraction and not letting ourselves be interrupted by the

00:10:48: pause, by the joy, by the wonder.

00:10:54: And that's it.

00:10:56: What comes down to creating balance, to moving in balance because then when we get aware

00:11:05: of that, some things we do too much of and others not enough for our well-being.

00:11:19: And with well-being, I mean for reminding ourselves what we are in essence, to not let ourselves

00:11:29: be tempted by the distractions of life, by the challenges that we will face.

00:11:40: We will face challenges.

00:11:43: Life is a challenge.

00:11:49: The path you go is a challenge.

00:11:51: If there would not be challenges, it would be boring.

00:11:57: You would get bored.

00:11:59: You would find yourself something.

00:12:04: It's the obstacle that counts for us as humans when we go on adventure, which is life.

00:12:13: Deep down we want to overcome the obstacles.

00:12:17: We want to find out what we are capable of as humans, not in the human sense, but how

00:12:25: much can we transcend?

00:12:27: How close we can get to choose, how close we can get to remembering God, our essence.

00:12:39: And this path is paved with very individual obstacles.

00:12:46: And this we all have an equal.

00:12:49: And here lies that paradox.

00:12:52: These experiences, these experiences of the challenge of the obstacle of facing life,

00:13:03: this is very, it's the same for us all.

00:13:09: Yet in the concrete, how these obstacles look like, it's different.

00:13:18: And it's just a way for us to learn, to finding our balance, to choose in every moment.

00:13:28: Do we get distracted?

00:13:31: Do we allow ourselves to be interrupted by joy, by bliss?

00:13:40: How do we lead our lives?

00:13:43: Or are we buying in?

00:13:48: To victimizing ourselves, to complaining, to pouring our energy, our precious life force

00:14:05: energy into the resistance to life itself?

00:14:24: My invitation for you today and for us today is to have a look out on the balance in the

00:14:36: very precious moments that we get in a day.

00:14:44: The balance of taking care for others and taking care for ourselves.

00:14:51: The balance of giving and taking.

00:14:55: Because I do not believe that it's wrong to give.

00:15:03: Don't get me wrong.

00:15:04: Either way, when you go too much in one direction, only given giving or in the other, only taking,

00:15:12: you will exhaust yourself at some point.

00:15:18: So the key is in giving from a place where you can also say no, where you can extract

00:15:28: the things that serve life in a way that they serve you as well because you are part of

00:15:34: the equation.

00:15:37: You are part of the equation.

00:15:42: So here's the question.

00:15:47: Very simple question to ask throughout the day, once, several times, what is essential

00:15:57: right now?

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