LLI 36 Transcendent Leadership: Eros, Intimacy, and Inner Authority

00:00:00: What if leadership was erotic?

00:00:04: Are you getting curious?

00:00:06: Me too.

00:00:07: So let's explore together.

00:00:11: We have been iterating our way forwards already.

00:00:15: Today is day 36 of the Love Louder podcast, iteration number 36.

00:00:21: And we started out as Love Louder that came from a mantra that I found.

00:00:29: And it doesn't matter if you've been here for a couple of episodes already,

00:00:34: so you're in the process with me and we're in it together.

00:00:39: Or if this is your first time listening to this podcast.

00:00:45: We can dip in and out like a river that is flowing and the water swirling around our feet.

00:00:54: We can choose to go a little longer in this pathway that the river is opening up.

00:01:05: Or we can choose to step out at any time.

00:01:08: And it's so clear and obvious, especially with this format of a podcast.

00:01:14: So you can enter the stream and you can choose to exit it whenever you want

00:01:21: and take a few droplets with you and be refreshed.

00:01:27: We started out as the Love Louder podcast, the Love Louder stream.

00:01:33: And a couple of episodes, a couple of days ago, there was something emerging.

00:01:40: It is loving like a leader and leading like a lover.

00:01:45: And that is, I would have said the essence, but as we're iterating forward,

00:01:52: we will distill it even further.

00:01:56: So the current state was loving like a leader and leading like a lover, which is still.

00:02:03: And I want to share with you something that just came up yesterday.

00:02:08: Well, a few days ago and then I just let it sit and yesterday again.

00:02:14: If leadership was erotic.

00:02:19: No, how does that go well together in a healthy way?

00:02:24: Eroticism and leadership.

00:02:27: Let's explore that there is a difference between a sexuality and eroticism,

00:02:35: between sex and eros.

00:02:38: And what I want to lean into is this eros part, this eroticism,

00:02:44: where we can find sexuality and all things surrounded by that or touched by that topic

00:02:55: or creativity, creation of this sexual energy.

00:03:01: Well, we can find it too, but yet it goes a little deeper.

00:03:08: We as humans, we long, we long for transcendence.

00:03:15: There is an inert longing for transcendence, I believe.

00:03:20: And if you listen to this podcast, you're listening right now, I believe you feel that too.

00:03:27: So that question of there must be more.

00:03:30: Is that really it?

00:03:32: Not just in our lives, how we live our lives, not this question that sometimes keeps burning,

00:03:38: saying like, is that really all?

00:03:45: But being part of something that is bigger than ourselves.

00:03:51: No, we touched on the first episodes on the topics of truth and reality, of our humanity

00:03:58: and how it is our life that we create, yet we are created.

00:04:05: So it's not you necessarily, the doer, yet you are to the channel of creation.

00:04:13: And when that is not eroticism, let's go a little further.

00:04:22: It's about, and now you can probably get, I mean, just that very, are very close to what you experienced

00:04:31: in intimate moments with other humans.

00:04:36: It's not about the structure too much.

00:04:40: It's not about certain techniques.

00:04:42: It's about taking what is your feeling right now in the moment, taking it and pulling up from there

00:04:50: and giving space and taking up space and letting go and surrendering.

00:04:57: In not a loop but a spiral that keeps us moving, moving and transcending every feeling that comes up.

00:05:11: You know, there are some, quite a lot of instructive videos on the platforms that say,

00:05:20: here's seven tips or seven steps, how you seduce a man, how you seduce a woman, how you be the best lover.

00:05:30: Yet is it really possible to generalize it this way?

00:05:36: I do feel that there might be some notions and it's worth playing around if you're into that

00:05:43: with the certain approaches just because it expands your mind, it expands your current behavior identity, maybe.

00:05:55: Yet there is no solution, there's no instructive manual that you can just give all humans and say,

00:06:02: that's how it works. If it were so, then we would not have that many offers around in this world

00:06:11: just claiming that this is the way how you do things and we would all be all very satisfied and happy

00:06:22: and well, just content with ourselves.

00:06:28: But usually we as humans, we aren't just because this is part of the human reality.

00:06:35: It's the desires, it's the human desires, it's the human fears that makes us alive, make us alive.

00:06:43: And we get to enjoy them, we do not have to go about it, like acting on it.

00:06:51: We can also just witness them and be happy with them.

00:06:56: It's just as soon as we get discontent with a certain state, circumstance, certain how it looks like,

00:07:09: it's probably that we cannot just leave it like that and be all enlightened and let it go.

00:07:17: So we will find ways.

00:07:20: Now that is what eroticism and erotic is about. It's about feeling deeply.

00:07:29: It's about not just applying the mechanical techniques of a process.

00:07:35: It's about being intimate.

00:07:39: It's about entering a stream, not knowing what there will come.

00:07:46: And it's not a process.

00:07:53: about providing you with the one solution fits all here.

00:07:58: The next three steps to freedom

00:08:01: and that's how I experience it

00:08:03: and that is what you must do

00:08:05: because this is your only strategy.

00:08:08: It's about getting together and finding

00:08:13: and creating a pathway together.

00:08:18: Bringing your all, bringing my all

00:08:22: and seeing what will come out of this co-creation

00:08:26: and ultimately it epitomizes in this moment

00:08:31: which is an eternity at the same time

00:08:39: where you lose track of time,

00:08:43: where you get in the flow first

00:08:45: and then you lose track of time completely

00:08:48: and you lose yourself, your sense of self.

00:08:53: You do not lose yourself.

00:08:55: You lose your sense of self for a brief moment

00:08:59: and that is what orgasms are, aren't they?

00:09:02: It's that tiny space in time that we long for

00:09:09: and there's a whole industry around it

00:09:13: that made a business out of it.

00:09:17: Out of this longing

00:09:20: because we misunderstand sexuality with eroticism,

00:09:24: we misunderstand it with our deep longing for transcendence

00:09:29: of shedding the ego, of shedding the eye,

00:09:35: of being eternal, being infinite,

00:09:39: of being, of us just being.

00:09:41: (soft music)

00:09:44: And once you dipped your toes into that very moment

00:09:55: where sometimes we have to say the burden

00:10:01: of the eye or the ego mind

00:10:04: of all that desiring and longing and fearing

00:10:07: and any emotion that comes there,

00:10:11: if you dipped into that where this is gone,

00:10:15: where time is gone, where everything is everything

00:10:19: and you are everything and everyone,

00:10:21: when we come back we wanna go back there,

00:10:26: very probable it.

00:10:29: And there are people that spend lifetimes obsessing

00:10:34: about finding their way back to truth

00:10:39: in this life, in this incarnation.

00:10:41: And it's simple, yet not easy.

00:10:48: And it's, while sexuality may be a pathway,

00:10:56: lived in a way that you take it as that,

00:11:05: not just as the satisfaction of bodily cravings

00:11:10: because then it's a dead end and you will get,

00:11:14: to know where you will just keep on spiraling

00:11:17: in the desire and that addiction for the drama,

00:11:20: which is a drama too.

00:11:21: This feeling of I don't have it, I want more of it,

00:11:26: I don't have it, I want more of it, I don't have it yet.

00:11:29: I had it, but now I don't have it anymore.

00:11:32: It is a drama and we're addicted to it,

00:11:35: but we can transcend it because

00:11:40: when we open ourselves up to the intimacy

00:11:47: that can be created,

00:11:53: we open ourselves up for truth.

00:11:59: Truth.

00:12:01: And we can transfer it to other areas of life too.

00:12:08: So this is not tied to the bed.

00:12:13: It is not, that is what sexuality usually is taken for.

00:12:19: It's just in the bedroom and all things very physical.

00:12:25: Now we come to why leadership can be erotic too

00:12:30: because then again, the leadership that leads with love,

00:12:34: that leads with intimacy,

00:12:36: that can lead with softness and tenderness,

00:12:40: not only but too, it can also be fearful.

00:12:44: And it can also be very clear in their actions

00:12:50: and their boundaries and distinctive.

00:12:54: Now this leadership that is able to alchemize it,

00:12:58: the yin and the yang, the eras,

00:13:03: and just let it flow through their style

00:13:10: of how they go about life.

00:13:12: And it does not matter if you lead an actual team

00:13:16: like other persons or you lead yourself

00:13:19: with yourself in your daily life,

00:13:20: how you go about the situations that you face,

00:13:25: that is true power.

00:13:28: That is endless power.

00:13:33: And it does not feed the ego mind,

00:13:37: it does not feed the ego mind that craves for power.

00:13:41: The ego mind that craves for power,

00:13:47: that craves for that satisfaction,

00:13:50: it's still just a shadow of that,

00:13:54: what is there if you transcend it.

00:13:56: And that's about leadership that is erotic.

00:14:04: That's about leadership that can take into account

00:14:07: the people around them.

00:14:09: It can take into account the moment of surprise too.

00:14:14: It can take into account that in the end,

00:14:19: it does not revolve around the I,

00:14:24: it does not revolve around the you,

00:14:27: but the I and the you,

00:14:31: we're just here to transcend,

00:14:33: to remember ourselves back to the essence that is truth.

00:14:40: (birds chirping)

00:14:43: So what if leadership was erotic?

00:14:50: We're distilling our way forwards.

00:14:56: And if there's any possibility for you,

00:15:00: just imagine me walking, sitting, standing by yourself,

00:15:04: whatever you decide, whatever you're just doing,

00:15:09: and think of it as me being another you,

00:15:14: and you being another me, I will do this too.

00:15:17: That's it for today.

00:15:22: We will explore this further.

00:15:25: I hope you have a wonderful day.

00:15:28: Love like a leader, lead like a lover,

00:15:32: and take just this thought,

00:15:34: this idea of erotic leadership

00:15:37: with you to contemplate.

00:15:39: Lots of love to you, Shang.

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